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跳脫性別框架愛情不再只有男生女生配

【性別。愛越界】就在高雄市電影館,從1129日開始!

高雄市電影館自11月29日(二)至12月11日(日)推出「性別。愛越界」專題影展,精選六部近年於各國際影展大獲好評的影片,內容涵蓋性別認同、同性戀、雙性戀、變裝等議題,不論是題材的爭議程度或是情感的細膩刻劃,都要讓影迷一飽眼福! 
隨著同志人權意識的抬頭,同志相關題材的電影逐漸成為各國影展的焦點,紛紛為其另設主題單元。本次「性別。愛越界」影展並不侷限於同志電影,而是以跨越傳統性別意識的角度來探討愛情、友情、家庭、婚姻等各種生活面向,試圖回歸人性原始的愛戀及慾望來檢視人與人間複雜交錯又互相牽連的情感。 
首先登場的是榮獲多倫多影展國際影評人費比西獎的《YSL瘋狂的愛》,以愛情貫穿藝術主題,透過一場世紀大拍賣,揭開法國時尚大師聖羅蘭與親密愛人皮耶貝爾傑兩人跨越半世紀的熾熱愛戀,片中許多珍貴的訪問與從未曝光的私人片段,更為電影增添詼諧生動的色彩。巴西里約同志影展開幕片《彩虹公寓》則敘述三個為愛所傷的失戀伴侶,在同一個屋簷下藉由相互取暖,得到解脫的心路歷程,是一部關於失去與承受、熱愛與療傷、友情與愛情的深刻動容同志作品。 
另一部挑戰道德禁忌的作品《巴黎舞男》,改編自法國爭議女作家蘿荷夏彭提耶的同名小說,描述放蕩不羈的女主角,女扮男裝夜夜流連於巴黎紅燈區,沉溺在紙醉金迷、酒池肉林的世界,原著因過於驚世駭俗,曾被列為傷風敗俗的禁書達30年之久。而甫入圍本屆歐洲電影獎最佳剪輯的《3人擠不擠》,為《蘿拉快跑》、《香水》導演湯姆提克威的最新作品,描述一對同居交往長達20年的男女,在兩人關係趨於平淡之際,竟同時愛上同一個男人,一段跨越性別的三人行故事就此展開。 
而榮獲今年日舞影展評審團大獎的北歐性喜劇《性福快樂》,兩對婚姻搖搖欲墜的夫妻,外表看似幸福和諧,卻潛藏四顆蠢蠢欲動的寂寥之心,進而演變成換夫、換妻、換換愛的局面,歡笑背後真實刻劃成人世界的心靈疏離。同樣令人笑淚交織的《愛情流彈》,票房橫掃義大利3億6仟萬台幣,描述男主角因被哥哥搶先出櫃,只好隱瞞性向接下家族事業,同志友人們卻突然來訪,並在眾人面前努力裝MAN掩蓋娘味,隨著真相連番爆炸,引發一連串難以收拾的風波。 
電影館提醒影迷,這六部電影將於11月29日至12月11日間播映,自11月22日起可至電影館、兩廳院售票網、7-11之ibon、萊爾富Life-ET系統購票,因座位有限,如有意體會非主流商業電影帶來的悸動,可千萬把握購票時機,以免向隅。 
(本新聞由高雄市電影館提供)

http://app.atmovies.com.tw/news/news.cfm?action=view&newsid=19518

 

專家稱我國約80%男同性戀會與女性結婚

2011-11-22 南方日報(中國大陸)

把丈夫鎖了3年的抽屜“啪嗒”一聲打開,李碧在一瞬間忘記了怎麼呼吸。
同性戀雜志、同性戀光盤,一本一本翻,一張一張看,壯男的裸體在她眼前不停地晃。這更像潘多拉的盒子,丈夫藏了20多年的秘密一下子四散亂飛。
這個年輕漂亮的女人突然意識到,自己走進的是一段充滿謊言的婚姻。那個對自己很摳、不願意和自己親密的枕邊人,一直隱瞞著自己“同志”的身份。當上網搜索時她第一次知道,原來像她這樣的人群很龐大,被稱為“同妻”。
據同性戀問題專家張北川研究,國際上一般認為男同性戀者占男性人群的3%─5%。而在中國,迫于家庭和社會壓力,約有80%的男同性戀會與女性結婚。按此估算,中國約有1600萬“同妻”。而在實際生活人口近1500萬的廣州,專家的估算是“同妻”超過10萬人。
這些“同妻”,有的已經“幸運”地走出來,有的為了孩子或面子選擇隱忍,還有更多的人蒙在鼓里。比被欺騙更糟糕的是,她們很可能要忍受丈夫的性冷淡、精神折磨,甚至是傳染愛滋病的風險。
在12月1日第24個“世界愛滋病日”前夕,廣州同性戀親友會舉辦“同妻有話說”活動,將“同妻”這個長期失聲的群體推出水面,並發出她們的聲音:“如果是‘同志’,請不要走進異性婚姻。如果是‘同妻’,直面他,走出來。”
抽屜的秘密丈夫偷藏“同志”光盤,欺騙說“我比較瘦,喜歡看強壯的男人”
“每天他都等我上了床再睡覺。睡覺的時候,他把被子壓得死死的,怕我碰他。任何一個女人,如果不夠自信,對著這樣的丈夫都會垮掉。幸好我夠自信,不管他怎麼‘踩’我,怎麼說我不好看,我都會回他一句‘開玩笑’。”李碧狠狠地說。
這是11月20日的下午,一個草根公益組織──廣州同性戀親友會在廣州舉辦的“同妻有話說”活動現場,30多平方米的大廳,擠進了60多人。除了幾名獲邀分享經歷的“同妻”外,主要以“同志”和其家屬為主,走進異性婚姻的“同志”也在聽眾席上。
3年前,李碧和丈夫結婚了,然而直到今年5月,李碧才發現丈夫的性取向,他喜歡的是男人。
“他讓你很放心,每天基本能回家吃飯。但是我們一直沒有夫妻間的親密感,而且我感覺到他對我的防備,他的工資、股票,什麼都不肯告訴我。”婚後,這個文質彬彬的公務員丈夫,讓李碧感覺“什麼都變了”。在一次打掃房間時,李碧發現了藏在角落、沒有封套的碟,碟機里播出的畫面,讓李碧越看心跳越厲害──都是“同志”的激情戲。
李碧將目光鎖定在那個3年來丈夫諱莫如深的上鎖的抽屜。等到丈夫上班後,李碧找到鑰匙,抽屜被緩緩打開,出現在眼前的場景讓李碧瞠目結舌。“各種各樣的雜志和光碟,全是男性的裸體。”
揣著忐忑不安和懷疑,李碧上網搜資料,找証據,並時不時試探丈夫對“同志”話題的反應。
被恐懼反複折磨的李碧終于忍不住和丈夫攤牌:“為什麼你的抽屜一直鎖著?里面裝著什麼東西,我要看!”當丈夫再三強調里面裝著錢時,李碧當著他的面翻出一抽屜的碟和書刊,質問:“你是不是喜歡男人,為什麼你不看女人看男人!”
束手無策的丈夫只能再三辯稱:“我比較瘦,喜歡看強壯的男人。”直到李碧哭著提出要離婚的時候,丈夫才“讓步”,承認自己最多是雙性戀,提出要去看心理醫生。
“他還是不想離婚,不願意正視自己的性取向。之後兩個月,他每天都很躁動,對我動不動就發脾氣。今年7月,我正式提出離婚。勉強沒有幸福。”李碧說,那是最難的一段日子。兩個人都很痛苦,丈夫甚至一直哭,哀求著不要分開。“你知道那種感覺嗎?夫妻3年,無愛無性,就像兩個陌生人住在同一個屋簷下,那種歇斯底里的痛和絕望,難以描述。”
如今,自嘲“淨身出戶”的李碧偶爾也會回望埋葬在這段“謊言”婚姻里的最好的青春,也會假設,如果當時不是想要平淡生活而選他,今日結果會怎樣。可是她知道,生活沒有如果。
無望的掙扎“同妻”努力打扮試圖挽回“同志”丈夫,夫妻關系卻更糟
和李碧一起參加活動的,還有一位很沉默的“同妻”劉瑜。她們在“同妻”QQ群上認識,惺惺相惜,成了朋友。
李碧說,大多數“同妻”都是被謊言帶進一段婚姻,只因丈夫要掩蓋同性戀的真相,或者為了完成傳宗接代的任務。每個“同妻”都有自己的故事,但是同樣的一點是,她們走出迷茫需要很長時間,尤其是有了小孩的。
坐在一旁的劉瑜點點頭。
劉瑜和同性戀丈夫育有一個3歲小孩。婚後不久,丈夫就選擇“出櫃”,坦白自己的性取向。然而,對同性戀完全沒有概念的劉瑜每次都當丈夫在開玩笑,盡管她常常有一種怪異的感覺──人家說夫妻心連心,自己卻從來感應不到對方。
今年8月,丈夫又提起這件事,並讓她上網看,還在QQ上傳給她同性戀的照片。點開照片那一刻,劉瑜直言“嚇死了,心好痛,頭很暈。”
接下來的一個星期,劉瑜一整晚一整晚地睡不著覺,連續三四天粒米不沾。她形容“像死了一樣”。當丈夫向她承諾,“給我一年時間改。我們不要聯系,我改好了就會回來找你”時,劉瑜依然想著“要一起努力”。
然而,謊言像泡沫,一個一個被戳破。“他一開始跟我說,沒有和同性發生關系,後來又承認有。他說要改,實際上沒法改。”她下定決心要離婚。
李碧說,“同妻”有一個QQ討論群,“同妻”們在這里傾訴共同的悲慘遭遇。除了遭受長期的冷暴力外,更有不幸的女性要忍受丈夫的拳頭──但有些”同妻“為了孩子選擇隱忍不願離婚,還有的甚至想盡一切辦法希望把丈夫的性取向扳回來。在她們的意識里,嫁給男同性戀,是不能言說的恥辱。“有一個‘同妻’,每天都打扮得很漂亮,希望吸引住老公。我們也只能支持她。但是3個月過去了,夫妻關系變得更糟糕。”李碧舉例說。
“我們希望,‘同妻’們一定要清醒,承認吧。幸福遠比面子更重要。他對你沒有愛,接吻、做愛都只是應付。”李碧直言不諱。
痛苦的選擇妻子拒絕離婚左右為難。對同性戀圈子越陷越深,卻又不敢放開去愛
但是,並非所有“同志”都有心欺瞞。30多歲的“同志”張華結婚6年多,正在為“妻子不想離婚”而苦惱。
27歲那年,張華和同在工廠的同事結婚,很快有了小孩。然而,小孩還未滿一歲的時候,張華終于找到了自己“新婚時一點也不激動”的原因。
張華說,自己從小在農村長大,根本沒有接觸過什麼是同性戀,只知道自己對男性有一點點愛慕。在確認自己性取向之後,家人卻認為自己中邪、生病了,張羅著為他拜神驅魔。“改變不了就是改變不了。”
“一開始想離婚,但是妻子堅決不同意。現在第二個小孩都5個多月了。一說離婚,妻子就會問我,難道你不覺得單親家庭更痛苦?我完全不知道怎麼處理。”張華說,自己建議妻子上網搜索同性戀的資料,但是妻子堅決不看。如今張華只希望不要給孩子太大的影響。
湖北人陳東和張華略有不同,他是一名雙性戀者,但是他的困擾越來越大。“我和妻子相處得還不錯,但是發現自己越來越冷淡妻子。對同性戀圈子越陷越深,卻又不敢放開去愛。”
和妻子分居兩地的陳東難掩自己對妻子的愧疚。“她有時候深夜會發短信給我說‘我想你了’,但是我只願意回‘我也一樣’,‘想你’就省了,我不想騙她。如果妻子願意離婚,我想回歸單身。但是我現在不敢說,她肯定接受不了。”
妻子的呼籲不要罵他們是騙子,其實他們也很苦,但希望“同志”不要走進異性婚姻
聽陳東講完自己的經歷,所有人都若有所思。
兒子是同性戀的廣州阿姨徐媽媽突然拋出一句感慨:“我想我兒子對我說的話是對的。”
像徐媽媽一樣,坦然接受兒女是同性戀、並參與活動的父母,越來越多。
“兒子‘出櫃’的晚上,我們聊了整整一夜。他是家族的獨子,傳宗接代的寄托全在他一人身上。我們請求他,我們接受你‘出櫃’,你能否先結婚、生個孩子,再離婚?”徐媽媽說,當時兒子直接拒絕了,兒子告訴她,“這個問題我想過,但是這不應該,也很不道德。活在謊言中的人,會傷害自己,會傷害對方,也會傷害自己的下一代。”
徐媽媽的發言,像往壓抑的現場扔了一個手榴彈,炸出一個大洞。現場不少“同志”紛紛表達訴求“支持同志平權”。
“同志”小卓直言:“‘同志’的社會能見度不高,不受世俗、法律的承認,這導致更多的‘同志’去找異性結婚。如果‘同志’得到更平等的對待,會有更少的人選擇去欺騙。”
把父親帶到現場的“同志”阿達則坦言,現在社會對同性戀的寬容度已經大了很多,但問題在于,“同志”們是怎麼認識自己,想要什麼樣的人生。“女人是個好東西,體貼顧家,但是你沒有辦法給她愛。‘同志’們不應該既享受了男人的性,又想要現妻的愛。”
“不要罵他們是騙子,其實他們也很苦。”徐媽媽對李碧說,希望社會不要把這些走進婚姻的男同性戀想得太壞,他們也是迫于社會和父母的壓力。大家可以互相幫助,不要成為敵人。“但是,有一點是不變的,我們希望‘同志’不要走進異性婚姻。”
(應受訪者要求,文中皆為化名)
●南方日報(微博)記者 趙琦玉 陳楓

http://news.sina.com.hk/news/9/1/1/2499127/1.html

 

15歲高一同志少年 娘娘腔被同學痛扁

2011年11月18日00:02 蘋果即時  

美國俄亥俄州尤尼奧多高中(Unioto High School)上月底發生一起校園霸凌事件,一名已經公開出櫃的15歲高一男同志新生查克(Zack),在教室內莫名奇妙的被同學痛扁,教室中的其他同學沒人幫忙,只有人偷偷用手機拍下整個過程。
意外發生當天,動手打人的同學早就在教室等查克,查克一進教室不分青紅皂白就是一頓痛打,當查克問原因時,打人的竟然說:「誰叫你是個娘砲(fag)」。而事後查克的母親與他一起到學校請求老師協助,學校卻說:「我們知道校內有幾位男同性戀的學生,但是你是唯一一個被抓出來打的,你要不要考慮低調一點?」
查克和媽媽聽到這樣的答覆覺得不可思議,於是找上了人權組織「美國公民自由聯盟」(American Civil Liberties Union,ACLU),終於,日前在俄亥俄州政府替查克開了第一次聽證會,查克的媽媽表示:「我們不能再沉默了,這不是我們的選項」。目前學校已經對動手的學生做出「恰當」的懲罰,但是當地媒體想要多了解懲罰的內容,學校則搬出「保護當事人」的理由拒絕透露。

http://tw.nextmedia.com/rnews/article/SecID/103/art_id/93278/IssueID/20111118

 

Was Gingrich’s ‘humane’ immigration policy LGBT inclusive?

November 23, 2011 | 

LGBT immigration advocates are pushing Republican presidential candidate Newt Gingrich to put his money where his mouth is on the “humane” immigration policy he espoused that would allow undocumented immigrants to remain in the United States.

Gingrich, the current GOP presidential front-runner, made the remarks Tuesday night near the end of the CNN Republican presidential debate on national security held in D.C.

The former U.S. House speaker said the GOP should embrace a policy allowing undocumented immigrants to remain in the country if they’ve resided in the United States a long time.

“If you’ve been here 25 years and you got three kids and two grandkids, you’ve been paying taxes and obeying the law, you belong to a local church, I don’t think we’re going to separate you from your family, uproot you forcefully and kick you out,” Gingrich said.

The candidate later continued, ”I don’t see how the party that says it’s the party of the family is going to adopt an immigration policy which destroys families that have been here a quarter century. And I’m prepared to take the heat for saying, ‘Let’s be humane in enforcing the law without giving them citizenship but by finding a way to create legality so that they are not separated from their families.’”

Gingrich — most likely unknowingly — hit on an issue that’s important to LGBT advocates because of the inequities in the immigration system affecting gay Americans seeking to stay together in the United States with same-sex partners who are foreign nationals.

Under current immigration code, gay Americans can’t sponsor their foreign partners for residency in the United States because same-sex marriage isn’t legal in many places and because the Defense of Marriage Act prohibits federal recognition of those unions. Consequently, foreign nationals who are in committed relationships with gay Americans may have to leave the United States or face deportation.

Steve Ralls, spokesperson for Immigration Equality, called for Gingrich to follow up on his remarks by endorsing comprehensive immigration reform and family reunification legislation that has language for gay bi-national couples:

“The former Speaker’s comments on Tuesday highlight a growing truth: There are few Americans whose lives are not touched, in some way, by the millions of immigrants — both documented and undocumented — who call our country home. As Gingrich pointed out, the immigrant community includes our family members, friends, neighbors and co-workers.  Of the 400,000 individuals forcibly removed from the United States last year, most had no criminal record and many have loved ones who are American citizens. Of course, some of those were also lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender and were separated from spouses, partners and children. One of those is Jair Izquierdo, who was deported just weeks before Christmas last year and whose partner, Richard Dennis, continues to work for his safe return home.  Given his past record on issues important to LGBT families, I worry that Gingrich’s comments were not intended to include families like Richard and Jair, but I also hope I am wrong.”

“Gingrich’s remarks last night, and the recent guidelines for discretion issued by the Obama Administration, underscore the need to be explicit that, in the United States, we include every family member – gay or straight – when we talk about keeping families together. It is past time for both parties to come together and pass comprehensive, inclusive immigration reform. Gingrich’s vision of a compassionate immigration policy mirrors the principles put forth by Senator Robert Menendez in his reform bill, and by Congressman Mike Honda in the Reuniting Families Act.  We would welcome the former Speaker’s support in pressing for passage of both bills, which include all families and which would help bring couples like Richard and Jair back together again.”

Lavi Soloway, founder of Stop the Deportations, said Gingrich should denounce DOMA, which enables the separation of bi-national gay couples, in addition to calling on President Obama to issue a moratorium on DOMA deportations:

“Gingrich clearly wanted the audience to believe that, if elected President, he would pursue immigration reform that keeps families together, rather than allow families to be torn apart. In a general sense, what Gingrich said reflects the bedrock  principle of U.S. immigration law: family unification. However, those words are cold comfort coming from Mr. Gingrich, who has stood solidly against LGBT families throughout his political career. If Newt Gingrich really believes that we should fashion an inclusive immigration policy that protects all families, he should immediately denounce the Defense of Marriage Act which currently excludes more than 40,000 lesbian and gay binational couples from our existing immigration system. He should urge the President to put a moratorium on “DOMA deportations.”

“But Mr. Gingrich will not do that because he not only helped lead passage of DOMA as Speaker of the House in 1996, he continues to actively oppose equality for LGBT families today. All candidates for public office, regardless of party, must address the humanitarian crisis faced by lesbian and gay binational couples because of DOMA and support concrete solutions for the protection of all families.”

 Despite calls among LGBT advocates encouraging Gingrich to step up his pledge on a “humane” immigration policy, political observers are saying the candidate’s remarks on likely hurt him among GOP primary voters.

In the debate, former Massachusetts Gov. Mitt Romney pounced on Gingrich and called the candidate’s idea a form of “amnesty” that would bring more undocumented immigrants into the United States.

Romney lated added past programs in the country “have said that if people who come here illegally are going to get to stay illegally for the rest of their life, that’s going to only encourage more people to come here illegally.”

The Gingrich campaign couldn’t be reached to comment on the calls from LGBT advocates for an inclusive immigration policy.

http://www.washingtonblade.com/2011/11/23/was-gingrich-humane-immigration-policy-lgbt-inclusive/

 

Clayton Passes LGBT Nondiscrimination Ordinance

ST. LOUIS , The Clayton City Council introduced and unanimously passed, Nov. 22, legislation that would include nondiscrimination protections for the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community in employment, housing, and public accommodations.

 Through the leadership of Mayor Linda Goldstein and the Clayton City Council, Clayton will become the third city in St. Louis County to pass a nondiscrimination ordinance inclusive of both sexual orientation and gender identity.

“We live in a very diverse world where all citizens contribute to the success of our communities," said Mayor Linda Goldstein. “The City of Clayton recognizes this critical factor of our society, and we are resolved to protect all of our residents equally."

 In most parts of Missouri, hardworking lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender citizens face the constant reality that they could be fired from their job for being LGBT and be denied access to housing and public accommodations. Clayton will join Saint Louis City, Kansas City, University City, and Olivette who offer fully inclusive protections for sexual orientation and gender identity. 

A.J. Bockelman, Executive Director for PROMO – Missouri’s statewide advocacy organization for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender equality – said of the vote, “We are excited to see the City of Clayton step up as a community that protects all of its citizens. Passing inclusive nondiscrimination protections for sexual orientation and gender identity is a clear indication of our momentum in St. Louis County." PROMO worked with the City of Olivette and University City in passing similar measures earlier this year to protect the LGBT community.

http://www.thevitalvoice.com/news/50-latest-news/496-clayton-to-pass-lgbt-nondiscrimination-ordinance

 

Harvard May Ask Applicants About LGBT Identity

Harvard University has said that in order to better understand its students and match them with applicable resources it may start asking applicants if they are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender.

This admissions form question would be optional and the university, which has been flooded with early admissions requests this year, is keen to stress that information about sexual orientation or gender identity will play no part in the admissions decision-making process. Rather, Harvard hopes the question would communicate that the university embraces a diverse student body and that it is keen to meet its students’ needs.

From the Advocate:

Harvard University announced Wednesday that it may add language to its admission application that would allow prospective students to identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender, according toThe Harvard Crimson.

The admissions office is currently working on the wording of the potential question, and the staff intends to meet with student groups in the coming months to solicit feedback. “I think this campus is really welcoming to all students and that’s the signal we want to send,” dean of admissions and financial aid William R. Fitzsimmons told the Crimson.

A student identifying as LGBT would not function as a positive “tip” in the the application process. Fitzsimmons said the move is intended to be more of a welcoming signal to “students who are grappling with the issue of [sexual orientation] or gender identity.” Students may also be asked to write an optional essay to express their personal stories and experiences.

The final decision on adding this question will not be made until February of next year, but writers over at the Harvard Crimson appear in favor of the move citing that it would do well to answer for Harvard’s history and allay any fears LGBT students might have about applying. However, they would also like to see careful thought given to how the question is phrased so as to best show the diversity of identity and avoid narrow labels:

It should be no secret that queer students are enthusiastically embraced at Harvard and have held top leadership positions in cultural groups, the Harvard College Democrats, and the Harvard Republican Club. The University covers a variety of medical options for transgender students and employees, has appointed openly gay housemasters, and recently opened a BGLTQ student resource center. Those of us on the inside know that Harvard is queer friendly, but prospective applicants often lack the same insights. The proposed question on the Harvard supplement would highlight that the University embraces queer students from day one.

However, we must be mindful that the way the question is phrased is just as important as whether the question exists at all. Less than 100 years ago, Harvard initiated a veritable witch-hunt to purge its halls of queer students. Fears of that prejudice persist to this day, and any solicitation of information regarding the sexual orientation or gender identity of prospective students must be clear about the information not being used against the students in any way. Additionally, it is important to remember that prospective applicants may have wide-ranging sexual and gender identities and to be willing to accommodate them.

As previously mentioned on Care2, Chicago’s Elmhurst College, a liberal arts facility, is believed to be the first college to ask applicants the optional question on its application form.

The merits of this and similar admissions questions have been debated quite widely and not all to positive effect.

Some concern has been raised, for instance, that students who were not yet sure of their own identity may feel pressured to choose for the sake of the form an identity marker that they will later find does not match who they truly are, perhaps even later causing them some emotional distress.

Other voices have been more positive over the issue in saying that so long as the question is not used as part of admissions criteria it should in fact be a standard question on admissions forms, in the same way that other elective information is gathered, because it would help university officials better understand students’ life experiences.

Read more: http://www.care2.com/causes/harvard-may-ask-applicants-about-lgbt-identity.html#ixzz1eaCom72a

 

Yale application will not include LGBTQ question

A week after Harvard College administrators discussed the addition of an LGBTQ question to the application for admission, Dean of Admissions Jeffrey Brenzel said Yale will be adding no such question to its application in the coming year.

A question asking applicants to label their sexual preference or gender identity may create unfair dilemmas for students afraid of answering honestly, or for those who worry about whether it might affect their admissions chances, Brenzel said in a Monday email to the News.

“Given that we neither preference nor disadvantage LGBTQ students in our admissions process, we think it may be best not to present applicants with a question that might possibly create more concerns or questions than it resolves,” Brenzel said.

The Crimson reported last Wednesday that Harvard College is considering adding a sexual orientation question to its application. At Harvard, identifying as LGBT would not act as an advantage in the application process.

“We want to send a positive signal to students who are grappling with the issue of [sexual orientation] or gender identity,” William R. Fitzsimmons, Harvard’s dean of admissions, said.

http://www.yaledailynews.com/news/2011/nov/22/yale-application-will-not-include-lgbtq-question/?cross-campus

 

Young, Gay And Homeless: Fighting For Resources

by MARGOT ADLER

November 20, 2011

A number of studies of homeless youth in big cities put forth a startling statistic: Depending on the study, somewhere between 30 and 40 percent of homeless youths identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender.

It’s largely because gay youths are more often kicked out of their homes than straight youths. And even if they are not kicked out, they may feel so uncomfortable that they leave.

In New York City, nearly 4,000 young people are homeless every night — many of them gay.

Reaching Out To Homeless Youths

On the Christopher Street pier in Greenwich Village, where dozens of gay and transgender youths hang out, Carter Seabron and Elena Wood of Safe Horizon’s Streetwork Project hand out snacks, condoms and information. The organization sends out several nightly teams to find homeless youths.

“Would you like a snack?" Seabron and Wood ask. Oreos, Rice Krispies treats and chewy bars are the favorites. They also give out information about Streetwork’s drop-in centers, where young people can get showers, clothing and housing referrals.

Seabron, the outreach coordinator for the Streetwork Project, says that “for the most part, the majority of youth we see who identify as being homeless also identify as being LGBT."

Wood says not all of them are thrown out of their homes, although many are.

“The parent might not say, ‘You have to get out now,’ like, ‘I am kicking you out,’ especially since that is illegal if they are under 18," she says. “It’s a fine line between what is their choice and what is not."

Each homeless young person has a different story.

Jeremiah Beaverly grew up in Wisconsin and Illinois.

“The day after my 18th birthday this year, my adopted parent kicked me out," he says. “At the time, I was really infatuated with this guy, and she was listening to my phone calls. She started telling my family, ‘He is this, he is that, he is gay,’ and talking about me as if I wasn’t part of the family."

Beaverly was lucky — he had friends whose parents were more accepting. He stayed with them until he finished high school. Now, in New York City, he is in emergency housing — only available for 90 days.

“I went from shelters and couch-surfing to my own bed," he says. “I haven’t slept in my own bed for almost a year, so it is really nice."

‘Living In A Societal Moment’

There are three organizations that cater to homeless gay kids in New York City.

Carl Siciliano is the founder and executive director of the Ali Forney Center, which he describes as the nation’s largest organization dedicated to homeless LGBT youth. When he started the center almost 10 years ago, he says, “kids were dying in the streets; there was no shelter for gay youth; every couple of months, I would know someone who was murdered in the streets."

It has become clear to me that we are living in a societal moment, where kids are coming out at younger and younger ages, and there are so many parents who can’t be parents to their gay kids.

– Carl Siciliano, founder and executive director of the Ali Forney Center

In the beginning, Siciliano’s goal was just keeping kids safe. But as the years have gone on, he says, “it has become clear to me that we are living in a societal moment, where kids are coming out at younger and younger ages, and there are so many parents who can’t be parents to their gay kids. They can’t cope, they can’t deal with it, their religion is in conflict with the reality of their kids’ lives, and these kids are getting thrown away."

It makes sense if you think about it. Kids growing up today see gay people on television. They read about gay marriage in several states. If they think they are gay, they think they can come out of the closet at a younger age.

Tiffany Cocco grew up in East Harlem. She dropped out of school, did some drugs, was kicked out by her parents. She is now 23 and on a waiting list for housing. She’s been homeless since she was in her teens. She says she has slept at friends’ houses, couch-surfing, among other places.

“I lived on the streets," she says. “Literally, the A Train was my best ride: Waking up to the sunrise, gorgeous. I slept on stoops, park benches — then, finally, shelters."

Siciliano says the gay rights movement has not been good about dealing with the issue of homeless gay youth.

“The movement was articulated and thought out at a time when it was almost all adults coming out," he says. “We have framed our fight for equality in adult terms, and almost all the victories we have won only really benefit the adults in our community."

He also says the gay community hasn’t really dealt with poverty and destitution.

A Fight For Resources

Siciliano attended a recent rally in Union Square for gay homeless youths. A crowd of several hundred people chanted, “They’re our kids; they’re our kids."

At the microphone, Siciliano says it’s a different kind of struggle to protect gay kids than the battles the movement has fought in the past.

“With adults, it’s a fight for laws like marriage equality," he says. “It is not so much laws with the kids; it is economics. It’s a fight for resources. That’s what our community hasn’t quite gotten yet; we have to fight for resources to protect our kids. How dare we say ‘it gets better’ to the kids if we are not willing to fight to make sure they have what they need."

There are only 250 beds for 3,800 homeless kids in New York City; waiting lists are huge. Facing a $10 billion deficit, Gov. Andrew Cuomo made compromises with the New York state Legislature. Budget cuts would have taken 100 of those beds away. The city council restored monies cut from both the city and state budgets, so no beds have been cut. A spokesperson said Cuomo asked all local governments to take more responsibility for their budgets by eliminating waste and prioritizing vital programs.

But Siciliano is still angry that homeless kids are not a priority. Of the governor, whom Siciliano describes as heroic in regard to gay marriage, he says, “It’s tearing my heart in two. Here you have a political leader who is doing so much to help the adults of our community and is taking actions that harm and imperil the most vulnerable youth of our community. What do we do? What is our response to that?"

Siciliano hopes the rally in late October is the beginning of a real campaign for youth shelter. They’re calling for 100 more beds for homeless youth each year until the need is met. But homeless kids don’t have power, money or votes. It’s hard to believe they will be at the top of many politicians’ list in future city and state budgets.

http://www.npr.org/2011/11/20/142364493/young-gay-and-homeless-fighting-for-resources

 

Organizing on gay marriage referendum takes off

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

RALEIGH – Behind-the-scenes efforts are slowly gearing up for a referendum next May in which North Carolina voters will decide whether to engrave a ban on gay marriage into the state constitution. Pro- and anti-amendment forces are assembling campaigns that will raise money and build support for their causes.

In an era of increasing acceptance of same-sex relationships in the U.S., well-funded national groups that view North Carolina as a flashpoint on the gay marriage issue are preparing to get out their checkbooks. At least one is already spending in a bid to sway the outcome May 8 in the only Southeastern state that doesn’t limit marriage to a man and a woman in its constitution. The winning side may need millions of dollars.

“Money is what gives us the resources to win,” said Jeremy Kennedy, of the newly formed Coalition to Protect North Carolina Families, the referendum campaign committee opposed to the constitutional change. The salaries of two coalition employees already are being paid by the Washington-based Human Rights Campaign.

TV or radio ads and campaign mailers are expected to reach voters in the weeks leading up the referendum, although exactly how many will be seen and heard may depend on the polling or perceptions that the outcome is uncertain. Voter registration drives, debates on college campuses and pulpit sermons also are in the works.

“There’s a massive organization going on, and we are extremely excited about having the opportunity to let our voice be heard,” said the Rev. Patrick Wooden, pastor of Upper Room Church of God in Christ in Raleigh, a predominantly black congregation that supports the amendment.

Thirty other states already have approved constitutional amendments designed to prevent same-sex marriage. North Carolina state law already limits marriage to a man and a woman, but amendment supporters persuaded enough General Assembly members in mid-September that voters should be allowed to decide. The new Republican-led majority at the Legislature agreed to consider the question after it was blocked for years when Democrats were in charge.

Amendment backers say they want to protect traditional marriage by making it harder for a legal challenge by same-sex couples from other states who want their marriages to be recognized. Opponents said expanding gay rights – not constricting them – is on the right side of history, pointing to six states and the District of Columbia were gay marriage is legalized.

It’s too soon to determine whether the amounts spent on referendums in other states will be spent in North Carolina, said John Dinan, a political science professor at Wake Forest University. Often money pours in during the last month before such a referendum, he said.

“People are just trying to get a sense of will this be competitive,” Dinan said.

The pro-amendment campaign is in the planning stages and expected to be unveiled in a week or so, said Tami Fitzgerald, executive director of the North Carolina Values Coalition. Wooden said a positive message is being planned about the pre-eminence of traditional marriage in society.

The Washington-based Family Research Council also plans a statewide bus tour next spring in support of traditional marriage and other causes, said Tom McClusky, a council vice president. He adds the group’s legislative arm will pay for radio ads next year supporting the referendum, as they did in September before the Legislature’s vote.

Kennedy said the amendment debate will go beyond that just discrimination against people over their sexual orientation because the change would harm all unmarried couples.

The amendment would make marriage between a man and a woman the “only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this state.” It would bar local governments – there are currently eight in the state – from offering benefits to domestic partners of employees. Other legal experts argue it could invalidate domestic violence protections for married couples and affect child custody cases.

Kennedy said plans are still being worked out but the coalition will include gay rights groups, social and racial justice organizations, religious leaders and progressive businesses. The coalition will have field offices and seek support on campuses and in churches.

“We are really going to be a united coalition,” he said. “This isn’t just about gays and lesbians.”

Other groups, including Hickory-area based Faith in America and the Asheville-based Campaign for Southern Equality also are participating in opposition efforts to the amendment. Southern Equality held a two-week demonstration last month in which same-sex couples sought marriage licenses at the Buncombe County registered of deeds offices.

The pro-amendment effort got a boost this month when the Baptist State Convention of North Carolina voted for a resolution endorsing the amendment. The convention’s new president, the Rev. Mark Harris, also pledged to work with the convention’s 4,300 churches to get the amendment passed.

Both sides are seeking advocates with enthusiasm like that of Lydia Lavelle, a Carrboro town council member.

An N.C. Central University law professor, Lavelle has participated in two legal forums on what she calls the amendment’s broad consequences for domestic partners. She wants to distribute information to female attorneys and leaders in other municipalities about the amendment.

“Everyone has kind of unique abilities,” said Lavelle, who registered with her longtime female partner in Carrboro this year. “Sometimes I have to rein myself in with all of the things that I can do.”

http://www.rockymounttelegram.com/news/ncwire/organizing-gay-marriage-referendum-takes-776465

 

Marriage Equality: Taking the lead

Washington United for Marriage says now is the time to make history

By Zach Powers on November 22, 2011

LGBT leaders and allies all over Washington are launching a new campaign for marriage equality called Washington United for Marriage. The campaign’s goal is to pass a marriage equality bill in the Washington State Legislature and for it to be signed into law by Governor Christine Gregoire. To reach this goal the campaign will work to gain the support of local community members, elected officials and local media.
“This coalition of families, unions, business owners is about getting a bill passed out of the legislature and signed by the governor," says local activist Justin Leighton, who explains that the biggest challenge for the bill will be getting it passed in the senate. “We need folks to talk to their state legislators to tell them they support marriage and so should they." 
The Pierce County arm of Washington United for Marriage is already off and running – holding town hall meetings all over the county to rally support for the cause. While many in Tacoma have long been actively committed to marriage equality, Washington United for Marriage Pierce County is determined to engage the entire county. 
“It is easy to hold a meeting about marriage equality in cities like Tacoma and Seattle – those very urban, LGBT friendly areas," explains Leighton. “But when you hold a meeting about this topic in Puyallup, Lakewood or Gig Harbor then you’re a true trailblazer."
Washington United for Marriage is led at the statewide level by a large coalition of progressive civil rights organizations, including Equal Rights Washington and the Human Rights Campaign. The state coalition provides the county leadership teams with general direction and the counties implement plans as they believe best fit their communities.
The first course of action for the campaign in Pierce County has been to organize a series of town hall meetings all over the county. Recent meetings in Tacoma and Puyallup drew more than 50 attendees, and a meeting in Lakewood drew a crowd of more than 30.  
A meeting in Tacoma on Wednesday, Nov. 9 at First United Methodist Church was led by State Representative Laurie Jinkins and Tacoma City Council member Ryan Mello. The two leaders, along with guest speakers Pastor Melvin Woodworth and Tacoma Mayor Marilyn Strickland, encouraged attendees to participate in the campaign by engaging their community members and legislators in Pierce County, and urging friends and family in other parts of Washington to do the same.
“We are on the cusp of making history. For the first time in Washington state the majority of voters say they actually support civil marriage," Jinkins told the crowd, citing a recent poll by the University of Washington Center for Survey Research. “We can only (make history) if we are able to show legislatures that there is grass roots support here in the state."  

http://www.weeklyvolcano.com/mudroom/features/2011/11/wahington-united-for-marriage-campaign-for-marriage-equality-bill-in-washington-state/

 

Fears new Spanish prime minister could reverse gay marriage laws

Written by Martha Kirkpatrick         

Wednesday, 23 November 2011 13:59

There are concerns that Spain’s new prime minister, Mariano Rajoy, could reverse Spain’s gay marriage laws.

Rajoy, of the conservative Popular Party, does not support gay marriages though he does support civil partnerships for gay couples. In 2005 Spain became one of a handful of countries that legalised marriage between same-sex couples. Since the legalisation around 20,000 couples are believed to have gotten married in the country. Earlier this month Lainto pop-star Ricky Martin was granted citizenship in Spain reportedly because he wanted to wed his long-term partner.

However, the future of gay marriage in Spain is now under threat. Rajoy’s party has lodged an appeal in Spain’s Constitutional Court over the countries legalisation of gay marriage. If the appeal is successful it could result in Spain effectively rolling back time.

Only a few countries around the world have legalised gay marriage with the majority of them being European; Belgium, Iceland, the Netherlands, Norway, Portugal and Sweden. Non European countries to have legalised gay marriage include Canada and Argentina while New Mexico City and some U.S.A states such as New York have also legalised same-sex marriages. A number of other countries are debating legalising gay marriages such as the United Kingdom, Australia, Germany, Finland, Colombia and Luxembourg. Denmark meanwhile has signalled it intends to legalise gay marriage next year.

http://www.atvtoday.co.uk/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=2957:fears-new-spanish-prime-minister-could-reverse-gay-marriage-laws&catid=5:lgbt&Itemid=11

 

Danish gays to be allowed to marry in church

(AFP) – 11 hours ago  

COPENHAGEN — Danish homosexuals will soon be allowed to marry in the state Evangelical Lutheran Church, Denmark’s gender equality and ecclesiastical affairs ministry said Wednesday.

“The Danish government has decided that same-sex couples are to be able to marry in church on equal terms with heterosexual couples, and that they will be able to call themselves spouses," the ministry said in a statement.

The ministry will submit a bill to parliament on the issue soon.

“We expect to celebrate the first marriage next summer," Ellen Aagaard Petersen, a journalist with the protestant church’s official newspaper, told AFP, adding that the vote in parliament and implementation of the law would take about six months.

“All members of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in Denmark must have the opportunity to be married in church regardless of their sexual orientation," the ministry statement said.

Denmark was the first country in the world to allow gay couples to enter into civil unions, or so-called “registered partnerships", on October 1, 1989. Those unions have given homosexuals virtually the same rights as heterosexual couples, but not the right to a religious wedding ceremony.

Since 1997 the Church has offered gay couples a religious blessing of their union, stopping short of the wedding ceremony and they are not registered as a couple on the parish lists.

Pastors will however not be obliged to marry a gay couple if he or she does not want to, Aagaard Petersen said.

“A pastor can say no, but another one will say yes," she explained.

The Evangelical Lutheran Church had 4.5 million members as of January 1, according to its website.

http://www.google.com/hostednews/afp/article/ALeqM5glS3ev5OG6E3tFrIZ2aJKGpdyOGg?docId=CNG.bb3b0db5d9807139774f55fc34374faf.5b1

 

B.C. Supreme Court upholds ban on polygamy

Updated: Wed Nov. 23 2011 17:54:20
CTVNews.ca Staff

A judge in British Columbia has decided that Canada’s ban of polygamy does not violate the country’s Charter of Rights.

B.C. Supreme Court Chief Justice Robert Bauman issued his decision Wednesday, saying that while the ban does indeed violate the freedom-of-religion rights of those practising polygamy, polygamy brings such harm to women and children that they outweigh those rights.

In his 335-page decision, Bauman said that polygamy fundamentally hurts women, their children, and society in general.

“Women in polygamous relationships are at an elevated risk of physical and psychological harm. They face higher rates of domestic violence and abuse, including sexual abuse. Competition for material and emotional access to a shared husband can lead to fractious co-wife relationships," he wrote.

“Polygamy has negative impacts on society flowing from the high fertility rates, large family size and poverty associated with the practice. It generates a class of largely poor, unmarried men who are statistically predisposed to violence and other anti-social behaviour," he added.

Bauman added that the polygamy ban law is only valid if it isn’t used to prosecute child brides.

During 42 days of hearings in the case, the court heard testimony from academic experts, former polygamist women and current plural wives.

Lawyers with the federal and provincial governments argued that polygamy is inherently harmful and must be outlawed, while critics of the law said the law violates their right to religious freedom.

Most of the evidence focused on the community of Bountiful, B.C., whose residents adhere to the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, which believes plural marriage will allow members to reach the highest level of heaven.

It was the failed prosecution of two leaders from that community that prompted the provincial government to send a reference to Bauman.

Anti-polygamy advocate Nancy Mereska said Bauman’s decision is in keeping with international conventions that say polygamy harms women and children.

“The women that I have talked to and have been associated with in polygamy are women who have from childhood, babyhood, have been abused and harmed in this culture," Mereska, president of Stop Polygamy Canada, told CTV News Channel.

“They were forced into early marriages, they were told that their salvation was wrapped around their being obedient to the leaders of their communities. And the abuse that they have suffered throughout their lives is endemic and it’s lifetime sentences for all of them."

Mereska said in polygamous families, children are denied close relationships with their fathers and can be denied a formal education.

Mark Henkel, a leading polygamy advocate in the United States, said coercion or abuse can be dealt with “on a criminal basis," but polygamy between consenting adults should be legal.

“But when you talk about normal, consenting adult polygamy that has nothing to do with the paradigms of religious coercion as (Mereska) described," Henkel said. “That was not about polygamy, that was about the religion coercing situations of crimes against women and children."

According to Henkel, Bauman’s decision “has insulted every Canadian woman" because it implies that they “are not smart enough to choose for themselves."

Despite today’s decision, CTV’s legal analyst Steven Skurka says this case is far from over.

“I can tell you one thing for certain: this case will be appealed to the B.C. Court of Appeal and ultimately, to the Supreme Court of Canada," Skurka said minutes after the decision came down. “It’s just too important, too pivotal, to just stand with this decision, as thorough and comprehensive as it was."

Skurka added: “We’re years away from final decision in this case."

http://edmonton.ctv.ca/servlet/an/local/CTVNews/20111123/polygamy-law-bountiful-111123/20111123/?hub=EdmontonHome

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